Making decisions based on what’s expected from you rather than making them based on what your heart needs is the first sign that you care too much of what others think of you. We’ve all been there-we’ve all felt the need of approval from people surrounding us, and that’s natural. But the problem is that people started to consider other people’s opinions of their actions as a key factor in decision making. Making yourself pleased is indeed one of the goals society sets to us, and the requirements grow higher and higher. Nonetheless let us not forget that before living with anybody else, you have to live with yourself.
You lose your own self by taking too much care of the way you might you appear to others. And the worst part is that you don’t actually get anything out of it. You just put a lot of effort into looking as fashionable as possible, into talking a certain way or taking up habits you don’t particularly rejoice in solely to be accepted. People who are truly your friends accept you as you are and will never change you.
What’s the harm in reading a children’s book at 50? What’s the problem if you wear something out of fashion because it brings back pleasant memories to you? So what if you’re the only non-smoker in a room full of smokers? Every action you make feeds your soul, not anybody else’s. And let them talk. That’s all they can do, talk. “Did you see the dress she was wearing today? Horrendous, my grandma wouldn’t wear such a dreadful thing!”. And it might turn out to be something you’ve got from somebody dear to you long ago, and it might be the only thing that brings that person back to you. But they will never know, nor care. What matters is that you are feeling comfortable in your own skin, in which you have to stay for the rest of your life.
Try to get your head out of the box, breath in the fresh air and accept the fact that everybody’s different. Every soul is different. So how could you possibly enjoy the same things, or please everybody around you? Simply, you can’t. So why waste your ephemeral life and precious energy trying to please others, when you might as well live in harmony with yourself, pleased with who you are and steadfast in your principles. You are special as long as you follow your heart, don’t turn into a ordinary sheep that is afraid to cross the boundaries drawn by the society.
Life does not resume to the number of likes you get on Facebook, nor to what anybody thinks of you. Life is about loving yourself as you are, and who does not accept it has nothing to do in your life.
“What does it profit a man if he gain the whole world and lose his own soul?”(The Picture of Dorian Gray, Oscar Wilde)